- Introduction to NLP Presuppositions Part 1 of 4
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Hello everyone. My name is Umar Hameed and I run the Baltimore Washington Institute of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
What I want to share with you today are the NLP Presuppositions. I'm going to break this up into four videos. The first video is going to be the first four presuppositions and what this means in English is that these are the assumptions we hold to be true, that allow us to navigate the world and help people break through their limitations. So they become awesomer. Let's begin.
Presupposition, number one, people make the best choice available. Now to put this into context. Sometimes people make horrible choices, right? But if you look at their history, how they grew up how they see the world in that particular moment, they made the best choice possible. The real benefit of this presupposition is that you don't judge the person that you're helping. It allows you to see things clearly and figure out ways to help them get the results they want, in the most effective way that takes the history and their belief system into account.
Presupposition number two, underneath every single behavior is a positive intention, no matter how noble that behavior is, or how tragic like, for example, I had this dad come in, and the reason he came in to see me was that he was hitting his kids, and he couldn't help himself. And underneath that behavior, which is, you know, like really traumatic and traumatizes the kids. But on a good note gives me future clients just getting underneath that behavior was his need to make sure his kids have happy, successful lives, the thing we need to do is to find what's that positive intention, and that is the key to helping people create the change, they want to build better lives.
Presupposition number three, there is no failure, only feedback. The reason this is really important is if people think that they have failed, it brings on a set of beliefs and locks them and it traps them in their current circumstance. But if you can get them to believe that there's only feedback, and from that feedback, we can make adjustments to get, to get the results that we want, it just changes the way they see the world.
And it also allows us when we're working with people, as practitioners, sometimes things you're going to do are not going to work and if you go, "Oh my God, I don't know what's going on. I'm a failure," that's going to cause you to freeze up right? Your client doesn't know that you failed. All you need to do is say, "Okay, that's not working. Let me try something new." but don't say, "Oh my God, I made a mistake," just pretend like it never happened and keep on going till you get the results that you want and help your clients become awesomer.
Presupposition number four, the meaning of our communications, is the response that we get. All too often people think that they've communicated clearly only to find out that the other person didn't understand what they were saying, or they misinterpreted it. So what we need to do is to pay close attention to how people respond to what we're saying, to ensure that our message got through that is at the heart of human relationships. That is the heart of you. Being a therapist, a practitioner, your ability to communicate with people is essential.
Well there you have the first four presuppositions there's 16 and all look out for the next video with the next four. see on the next episode.