- Introduction to NLP Presuppositions Part 1 of 4
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Hello everyone. My name is Umar Hameed and I run the Baltimore Washington Institute of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
What I want to share with you today are the NLP Presuppositions. I'm going to break this up into four videos. This is video number two we'll be covering presuppositions 5, 6, 7 and 8. Let's begin.
Presupposition number five, if what you're doing isn't working try something new. Because you know the definition of insanity, right? It's eating cottage cheese. Now that's probably not right. But anyway, just think about it. If you knew that you could try something new to get a better result you do that right. If you go if I have to get it right and you get it wrong, you get stuck. This thing just allows you to see the world in a different way in an NLP way.
Presupposition number six, the person with the most flexibility controls the system. Just think about it for a moment, a two year old in a household with mom and dad who has the power you think mom or dad, right? But no, it turns out to be the two year old because the two year old will give you loving eyes will go, "Goo goo gaga," will cry will throw tantrum, do whatever it takes to get its way, it has the most flexibility, hence it controls the system. The same thing is true for you. That's why you need to learn many, many different techniques. And NLP has a ton of techniques that allow you to bring in that flexibility to help your clients get the results that they want.
Presupposition number seven, the map is not the territory. And what that means is, is that we create a map of what we think the world looks like. And everybody has a different map. So a good example is you have a group of FBI agents, let's say in training, and they have this staged robbery with this person comes in and snatches a purse off a desk and runs out of the room. So you've got these people that are in law enforcement. And when they do witness statements, what you get is, "No, he was a tall guy," "No, he was a short guy," "He was a fat guy," all these people saw the same thing but they interpreted it differently. And we see the world in our unique way and our clients that we're trying to help, saying there's and you have to realize that there is no such thing as reality. There's only a map of reality that we create.
Presupposition number eight, respect the model of the world of others. So let me give you an example. I had this woman bring in her daughter, who has test anxiety and freaks out when there's a test. So to begin the session, mom's in the room, this kids in the room and I turned to the kid and say, "I hear you got a test tomorrow," Kid nods, "So you're probably going to fail, right?" At which point the mother is like, "What the hell what are you talking about? You're supposed to give my kid this positive reinforcement." But what I did was by doing that, you're going to fail tomorrow. The kid kind of went, "Ahh," sighed, like all the tension was out of the room. And then I said, "Well, unless we figure out a better way of doing it, right?
So I respected her model of the world. And what that did was it built up a ton of trust between me and her that allowed her to go on this journey with me. By the way, the next day she aced her test. That's the power of NLP and that's why I love it. And that's why you should love it too.