- Introduction to NLP Presuppositions Part 1 of 4
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Hello everyone. My name is Umar Hameed and I run the Baltimore Washington Institute of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
What I want to share with you today are the NLP Presuppositions. I'm going to break this up into four videos, this is video number four, I'll be covering presuppositions, 13, 14, 15 and 16.
Presupposition 13, ecology first, and what that means in English is this. So let's say somebody is in this relationship, and they're a little timid, and they want to be a little bit bolder, and you make them really bold, and that blows up their relationship, they get a divorce, they lose the kids and then become homeless. So what we need to do is to make sure we understand that the change we're about to do is exactly what the client wants, and also, that we don't change them in their personal life making the boulder and all of a sudden, they're also bolder in other areas that were not intended.
Presupposition 14, the mind, the body, the spirit, are all part of one system. And that means if you change one area, you change them all. For example, you could have someone that's trying to lose weight, no matter how hard they try, they can't seem to do it, you could figure out that they have a belief that being too skinny is unhealthy. If you change that belief, all of a sudden, they can start losing weight, you got a physical change by changing their belief. All three are linked mind, body and spirit.
Presupposition 14, the body never lies. A good example of this is that you meet a nice man with a nice suit with a big smile that once you invest your money in their scheme, but you get this feeling in your body that says, "Danger, do not invest." And oftentimes what we do is we tell ourselves, "No, don't be silly. I'm sure he's a very nice man," thank you, Bernie Madoff.
This is true when we're dealing with clients. Also, they may say something, but if you're paying attention to the body language, sometimes you realize there's a disconnect from what they're saying and what their body is displaying. Being a great therapist is really paying attention not only to what they say, but how they say it, and what their body language reveals.
Presupposition 15, meaning over content. You can have somebody say something, but the tone they use and their body language lets you know what the true meaning of the words are. Pay attention to the meaning not just the content.
Presupposition 16 the last one, the past does not equal the future. This is crucially important because a lot of people think I've failed in the past so many times that means that I'm a failure, that I'm going to fail in the future no matter what, what we need to do is to realize that the past does not equal the future. We have all the resources in us and as NLP practitioners, we can unlock those resources within ourselves and within our clients so we can determine a new future, bigger, better brighter.
And that's what I love about NLP gives us the tools we need to create the change we want not sometime in the future. But right now if you found this series interesting and want to learn more about NLP, please visit me at the Baltimore Washington Institute of NLP and you can get there by going to nlpmd.com.